Let's start with what being fearless is not. Fearless does not mean then absence of problems. It doesn't mean things that cause you to be fearful will never happen. The bible says no weapon formed against you will prosper. It doesn't say the weapons will never form against you. It says they will never prosper. Fear is real and the reasons to get into fear are very real!
Fearlessness is not the same as recklessness. The Bible says obey the laws of the land and honor your mother and father. True faith means walking in faith not leaning on our own understanding but at the same time we are to walk in integrity. This walk of fearlessness requires a balance and wisdom only our heavenly father can teach us.
It's ok if we don't get it perfect. Growing is about moving forward not about being perfect. Do the next right thing and be courageous about it (Joshua 1:9). This will lead you on the path of being fearless. We are to fear being disobedient to God not man. This is more of a fear of hurting the one that we love. He loves us more than we can imagine! This kind of fear is based in peace and love and is different then the kid of fear we often think of being human. This is also different from abuse which is an entirely different subject. God always has our best interest at heart. He leads and guides. He lovingly instructs. He does not use control tactics, manipulation and gaslighting.
He will tell us as much truth as we are ready to hear. This phrase has helped me through the years. If you cannot trust the hands of God (circumstances look questionable) then put your trust in the heart of God.
Here is another truth that has helped me. Conviction from God comes with a feeling of empowerment. Repentance means change of action or direction and comes with clarity and a feeling of God pulling us closer. We know what needs to change. We know the why. We make the change or ask forgiveness and relationship restored. This process feels good. The enemy of our soul is an accuser. When he is at work "condemning" which isn't God at all. We fell bad like horribly flawed beyond repair. We feel hopeless and spiral down. This is a demonic attack and not God at all. There is no condemnation in Jesus. When these attacks are happening it's a good time to call upon his name. God WILL fight your battles is you call on him.
I battled anxiety and depression a good part of my life. Usually anxiety is the successor to going into depression. When a person experiences depression it's like a dark cloud hovers over. This makes the person suffering immobilized. Everything feels dark and hopeless. God is faithful in these times. I used to tell him that I knew that even if I couldn't feel or be positive I knew he would lift me out and he always did. Sometimes I would watch Christian television until it lifted. Other times I would listen to worship music. I also found essential oils, massage, hot bubble baths, healing and relaxation frequencies on tube, diet , supplements and exercise in addition to prayer and walking with God in the word helped me to overcome. You will overcome your battles too!
Many times Anxiety/Depression is just a physical occurrence but sometimes the anxiety was rooted in fear. I would fear the unknowns or have a trauma response to a similar experience in my current day that triggered remembrance of a terrible experience in my past. When this happens it's so important to have a relationship with God. If you ask him he will show you. These moments in my life is when he shows me why I am feeling the way I am. He gives me insight into situations. Sometimes he brings a past situation to remembrance to help me understand my current response to a situation.The biggest relief for me is in gaining understanding. I also gain healing through understanding. He shows me how to recover from these tests and trials of life.
When dealing with traumatic situations that cause fear he shows us strategic moves and he moves in power on our behalf. He is the builder of our faith and this is what becoming fearless is all about. We become more fearless in the safety of Gods embrace and authority. He has us covered even when we make mistakes. We can rest in his provision on every level. His love and provision are a free gift so we dont have to fear falling short anymore once we choose him. Even in trying to get our faith walk right there is no fear. God is relentless in getting us where we need to be and that place is in closer relationship to him.
I have experienced the fear of this world. I have experienced having no money and nowhere to go. I have experienced the people I love most turning their back on me in the past. I have experienced people in authority sabotaging my success on purpose when they should be leading and guiding. I have experienced feeling rejected, outcast, feeling unloved, feeling hopelessly flawed to the point no one could ever love me.
The enemy of this world is a sly one telling us how worthless we are, that we will never amount to anything. He tells us we will never deserve true love, we will always fail, we won't ever get it right and the list goes on. Some of us truly have been alone and suffered so much trauma in our lifetime. Others have families who actually do really love us but the love is lost in poor communication skills or missed love languages. The one truth that stands is that we do have a heavenly father who loves and adores us. He comes running when we call on him! We must overcome the enemy of this world and an even greater enemy our own ego. We must come into the truth of his light and love for us. We cannot do this journey without his guidance and we are greatly deceived if we think we can.
The good news is we aren't alone. We have a loving Father who is ABLE. He is our redeemer and friend. He can turn in all around. For me this redemption came lately with facing some of my greatest fears and most humbling of circumstances in which he changed ME. I am so grateful to be seeing the beauty today in the small things. I am learning to pray when I dont know what else to do. I am learning to hold my peace, protect my peace and not have an emotional reaction to everything happening around me. These things to me are such a gift! I m stretching my wings a bit. I am battling some fears of the future and the unknown as I get older. Getting older is a whole other set of fears. In the midst of my battles my anchor in him Is becoming greater and I feel so much less fearlful and anxious today!
Another beautiful gift God has given me is wisdom in recovery. This means learning the ways you feel tangible peace and relaxation in the midst of stressful situations. Stress is a silent killer so learning to regain and master peace is a real gift and strategy for winning in life. Some things that work for me are self care days when I have time off. I might do treatments on my hair and skin or get nails done. I might take walks, workout or read a book. I love oil diffusers in my room, relaxation frequencies/music, candles and meditation. I love all the chill vibes! When we can become calm within ourselves we can gain more clarity into our situations.
sometimes life comes at us full force facing us with more then we can handle. We can become overwhelmed and act in ways we judge harshly in ourselves. God still has us covered in these times. I find this so comforting and this alone diffuses the fear for me. Having struggled with being a perfectionist I find great comfort in knowing I have the freedom to just be loved by him. We live in a world that shouts at us every day to perform if you want love. Everything in this world is based on performance. I love a good performance like the next person but our love, value and acceptance in not rooted in our performance. I want my performance to be rooted in authenticity not fear. Love doesn't have to perfect. Love just has to be REAL and real love casts out all fear. This will be my next chapter!
2 Timothy 1:7 God has not given a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind!